Basic Sex Facts - 12/26/12

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I was talking to my friend about sex (as you do), and she said that she was talking to a co-worker who didn't know things about sex that she considered to be basic, common knowledge. So today's episode is about some basic facts about condoms, lubrication, and various other bodily functions that they don't tell you in sex ed, and that porn doesn't show you.

A major thing we emphasize in today's episode is that often the reality of sex is different from what you might imagine, or what someone might tell you. Sex is complicated, hilarious, strange, and all around more multi-faceted. It's not always glamorous, but the more you know, the more fun sex will be, and the safer you can be.

If you don't know something you think you should know, but were too embarrassed to ask, don't be shy about e-mailing me. A great resource is the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, as well as just talking to your local sex expert at the Safe Sex Store or Safety Girl.

(Edit: Also, I apologize for the low quality recording. This was done in my kitchen and it was Christmas, so we were kind of loud.)

Useful links:

1. Condom Application Series
2. Condom Use Among Adolescents
3. Condom Fact Sheet
4. Female ejaculation via Wikipedia
5. 7 Ways To Know If You're Peeing Or Squirting

Music you heard:

1. "9 AM Christmas Day" from Animal Crossing GC
2. "Sex Ed Scene" from Monty Python and The Meaning of Life
3. "Break Through" by The Funkees
4. "Another Day" by Jazzanova

See you in the New Year!

Asexuality - 12/5/12

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I've been wanting an episode of The Sex and Tell Show about asexuality since the beginning stages of this show, and I'm so happy to be able to finally have someone motivated to talk about it with me. Hopefully there will be more episodes about asexuality that we do, but today we wanted to cover some basics: definition of asexuality, the difference between asexuality as an identity and a behavior, and the asexual community and the LGBT community.

The major point of the episode is acceptance and visibility though. The asexuality community is one of the only LGBT communities that simply isn't seen, or isn't acknowledged, but we can change that. Check out some of the resources below and educate yourself on some basics about asexuality, because chances are you might know someone who is asexual, or you yourself might identify it.

If you have any questions or want some more resources, feel free to contact me.

Useful resources:

1. Beyond (a)sexuality, the grey area
2. Beyond Straight and Gay - Why Asexual Visibility is Important
3. Asexual via Wikipedia
4. Asexuality.org
5. Why Should The Sex Positive Community Promote Asexuality Awareness?

Music you heard:

1. "Golliwog's Cakewalk" by Claude Debussy
2. "Booster's Tower" from Super Mario RPG by The One-Ups
3. "1 AM" from Animal Crossing GC

See you next week! 

Menswear for Female Bodies - 11/27/12

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Today's episode I had my friend Tasha on the show, who also is quite a dapper individual, and someone I can express my deep love for men's footwear and blazers with.

This is a topic that is very close to my heart, and something that I want more people to feel comfortable about and exploring. We all are ultimately looking to feel comfortable in our own skin, and our wardrobe can play a huge part in that. When I'm wearing a shirt or tie that fits me, it makes me feel like a new person. A more confident person. A person that can tackle anything. If I'm not comfortable in my clothes, I feel a lot less confident and sexy.

The hardest part about exploring dapper clothing is the judgement that you might face from store employees, other customers, or whomever. It's not easy, but the more often you do it, the more often you succeed, and the happier you can be with your wardrobe.

If you want any tips or suggestions about looking for clothes, feel free to shoot me an e-mail or comment!

Useful links:

1. Saint Harridan Kickstarter
2. Kreuzbach10 IndieGogo
3. DapperQ
4. Autostraddle: How to Wear Skinny Ties For Femmes and Bois and Everyone in Between
5. Casey Legler Interview

Music you heard:

1. "Alligator" by Tegan and Sara

See you next week!

Happy Obama! - 11/7/12

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Although my show this week was a bit scattered, I am so pleased to share it with you. Instead of 4 years of regression and the destruction of the equality that we have been striving for, America was smart enough to elect President Obama for a second term. This means progress, hope, and to be blunt, getting shit done.

I don't have much else to say, but enjoy the episode. 

Music you heard:

1. "6PM" from Animal Crossing OST
2. "Time Is All Around" by Regina Spektor
3. "Change" by Podington Bear
4. "bamboo cactus" by i, cactus

Useful links:

1. Obama's Victory Speech

Erotic Ghost Stories - 10/31/12

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OK guys. Are you ready? I've been wanting to do this show since I got back from Radiovision, and I pretty fucking excited, let me tell you what. I bought a book of erotic ghost stories called "The Big Book of Erotic Ghost Stories" at the Museum of Sex. When I showed fellow CBNer Kirsten, she basically said, "You have to read ghost erotic on Halloween on your sex show."

So I did.

Although I'm not entirely done with the book, I'm about half-way through, and I'm pleasantly surprised. Not all erotica is created equal, but a lot of these not only have plot and characters, but hella sexy scenes. As I was editing the first story, I also realized that erotica would make great radio pieces. The sounds and feelings of erotica are so hyper-aware that it calls for a bit more than just reading it (although that in itself is intensely sensual). It calls for the smells of the candles, the feeling of the sweat on your arms, and the tastes of a ghost lover's tongue. Too much for you? Maybe you don't want to listen to this episode then.

Useful links:

1. The Big Book of Erotic Ghost Stories
2. Museum of Sex

Music you heard:

1. "Going Out Of My Head" by Little Anthony & The Imperials
2. "As Time Goes By" from Casablanca
3. 28October2012 by John Boyle

In the spirit of Halloween, I thoroughly hope you are equally spooked and aroused. Enjoy!

Safety Girl! - 10/24/12

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Today's show I had a very special guest: Tanya Veilleux, who you might know as Safety Girl. She recently opened Get Curious with Safety Girl on Liberty (under Bongz & Thongz), and is on a mission to help the community by offering lots of toys, workshops, and fun costumes.

Something I love about what Tanya does, is that she is not afraid to be completely sex positive, and in a completely safe way. There are no dumb questions with her, and there's nothing TMI. You can talk about anything, and her shop is a completely safe space for this. Tanya also has developed a relationship with First Step, a domestic violence support community, which I think is so necessary to talk about and bring to light, since 1 in 4 women has experienced domestic violence.

The thing I realized while talking to Tanya was that it's important to band together in small communities like ours. Sometimes it's hard to open up about your sexuality, whether your straight or queer, and it feels good to have other people that are open about it. That is one of the fundamental reasons for my show here guys: to make you feel comfortable talking about your sexuality. I want you to feel empowered and comfortable with yourself, and the only way for that to happen is if other people are open about their own sexuality. Sex-positivism is catching.

Music you heard:

1. "Curious Jungle" by Podington Bear
2. "Ask Me Now" by Thelonious Monk
3. Safety Girl Theme

Useful links:

1. Get Curious with Safety Girl
2. Safety Girl on Facebook
3. "Boutique caters to student sexual needs" via Michigan Daily
4. First Step

Fetishism - 10/17/12

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Did you think you were the only one who liked the smell of your girlfriend on her period? You're not alone. There are innumerable kinds of fetishes, and chances are, you have one.

Don't freak out, though. Pretty much everyone on the planet has one fetish (or more). Whether you're into red heads or leather, there's something for everyone, and it makes us who we are, and what affects our sexual tastes. And as we say numerous times, as long as it's not hurting anyone, and everyone's consenting, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Part of figuring out your own sexuality is delving into stuff like this, and that's what makes us all unique, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with you for having a fetish that other people might think is weird. Chances are, there is someone (or many people) who has the same fetish as you. Just look at how the BDSM community has blossomed! Although it's still considered strange to some people, it's much more acceptable, and to be honest, I've heard a lot of couples say they have tried bondage at least once.

WARNING: We talk about some strong topics, such as cannibalism, rape, and murder fetishes, so if this triggers you, proceed with caution.

Useful links:

1. Sexual fetishism via Wikipedia
2. List of paraphilias via Wikipedia
3. AskMeAnything (AMA): I am a current furry who has attended 17 furry conventions.

Music you heard:

1. "Bear Hug" by 2 Bears
2. "Crane/White Lightning" by The RZA and Charles Bernstein from Kill Bill Vol. 1
3. "Mein Teil" by Rammstein

Bullying Part 2 - 10/10/12

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Welcome to week 2 of Bullying Awareness Month at The Sex and Tell Show!

When it comes to bullying, the major idea is that students feel safe. If they don't feel safe, they will not report bullying when it happens. They won't know who to trust, and they won't feel comfortable talking about it with just anyone, because maybe THEY will bully them too. Even the smallest things can help, like having a rainbow flag sticker on your door, or an HRC sticker on a water bottle. Having materials (brochures, etc.) in your office will let students know that they can talk to you. Kids pay attention, and they notice more than you think they do. 

Another important thing that I think all schools should do, is to provide some sort of informational assembly (or multiple assemblies), regarding the LGBT community. Have someone explain what queer means, or what being transgender means. Inform your students, and they will be less likely to bully, because they will UNDERSTAND. Same thing with adults, which is a reason why I have this show. When people are more educated on a topic, they are more sympathetic. They are less likely to say something offensive.

Music you heard:

1. "Eugenia" by Scott Joplin
2. Zeki Müren (forgot the song sorry!)

Useful links:

1. LGBT Youth Tip Sheet
2. 4 Steps Schools Can Take to Address Anti-LGBT Bullying and Harassment
3. Gay Bullying - National Youth Association
4. Transgender people and bullying

I hope this was helpful, and I hope it inspires you to stop bullying, in whatever form it takes. Tune in next week when we talk about fetishes!

Bullying Part 1 - 10/3/12

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In light of Bullying Awareness Month, I wanted to have an episode specifically on the kind of bullying that happens with queer kids in high schools, college, work, whatever. Turns out the episode didn't go quite as I planned, in the most glorious way. I'm really pleased with the way the topic went, and especially with my guests.

A major topic we talked about were the ways that people bully, and the kinds of people that bully. Here's the thing: everyone bullies and everyone is bullied. Bullying comes out of insecurity, or ignorance. The only way to stop is to be honest with ourselves about why we're feeling a certain way, and also to not let bullying slide. Ever. It's never OK, and it's not just something kids do. Adults do it too. Companies do it. Politicians do it.

The worst though is when someone is bullied for simply being who they are, which is why this topic is so important for a show like mine. This can pertain to anyone with a body. Whether it's making fun of someone for being overweight, calling someone a slut, or calling someone a fag. You can stop this. You don't have to tolerate it, and you shouldn't tolerate it. Every single person on the planet is so beautiful, and deserve as much respect as anyone else.

Also, as a side note, this episode was not only aired live, but was also filmed live by two wonderful ladies in a documentary film class at the university! Thanks for adding so much energy to the show!

Useful links:

1. CBS WKBT News Anchor's On-Air Response To A Viewer Calling Her Fat
2. FAQ: What is "slut-shaming"?
3. Bullying Prevention Tips (concise)
4. Gays Bullied To The Point Of Suicide

Music you heard:

1. Same Love feat. Mary Lambert by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis

If you're interested in this topic more, we're having Part 2 of Bullying next week, so definitely listen in. We didn't cover even half of the things I wanted to talk about, and since it's Bully Awareness Month, I think it deserves another show. See you next week!

Sex Before Marriage - 9/25/12

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Today's show is a bit of a hot topic, and I want to take a second to acknowledge it as such. Not everyone will agree with my personal opinions about sex before marriage, and that's absolutely fantastic. If we all had the same views, we would live in a boring world. That said, I try my very hardest to understand other viewpoints, whether I disagree with them or not. I don't expect anyone to agree with me, but I expect respectful discussion, which is something I think our society lacks.

Both this and the topic of same-sex marriage tend to bring up very, very strong emotions. That's natural, but I hope that what you take away from this episode, above all of the other opinions you hear, is that we talk about sex before marriage in a very civilized way. We might have differing opinions, but that doesn't mean we need to be petty. This is why I thought that Jill Filipovic's article was fantastic: it was relatively neutral, and very much empathetic to both sides of the topic. 

I implore you, if you want to talk about this or any subject that you want to discuss with another person, try to follow these rules:

• Be respectful
• Put yourself in their shoes before you speak
• Speak to others as you would like to be spoken to
• Be objective when you can
• No yelling

I hope that you enjoy today's show, and I would love to discuss the topic at greater length if you want to post your thoughts, or e-mail me. 

Useful links:

1. Waiting till the wedding night -- getting married the right way
2. The moral case for sex before marriage
3. Reciprocal Effects of Religiosity, Cohabitation, and Marriage
4. Taming desire: Celibacy, sexuality and the Church

Music you heard:

1. "Peggy's Minute Rag" by Elena Kats-Chernin
2. "Body and Soul" by Billie Holiday
3. "A Lover Like You" by The Avett Brothers

Thanks!

Kissing and Commumnication - 9/11/12

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I've been thinking a lot about communication lately, and the ways that we tell or show what we mean. That could mean with a partner, girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, whatever, but really it's about everyone we interact with. We all have our ways of communicating, and we connect most with the people that communicate in the most similar way we do. This goes especially for dating. If you can't have a conversation, chances are your sexual communication will be a little off as well. And if you don't kiss the same way, chances are you won't have sex the same way either. Something to think about also is that sometimes kissing takes practice. You don't have to stick to kissing the way you've always been kissing, just like how you shouldn't get yourself in a rut when it comes to your openness to trying new things in the bedroom.

These are the things we think about.

We also talked a bit about toys, and especially male toys, such as cock rings, nipple clamps, and masturbation sleeves! So many fun things!

Useful links:

1. Nipple toys on Adam and Eve
2. Article about kissing
3. What's with the stigma surrounding fleshlights?

Music you heard:

1. "The Beach" by Podington Bear
2. "Jungle Love" by Morris Day & The Time
3. "Gimmeakiss" by The Avett Brothers

See you next week, my beloved listeners. 

Erotica - 8/29/12

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Today's show is all about erotica, peeps. We talk a bit about the definition of erotica and what makes it different from pornography, but our main emphasis is on the written form of erotica, like romance novels.

Erotica (from the Greek ἔρως, eros "desire"): works of art, including literature, photography, film, sculpture and painting, that deal substantively with erotically stimulating or sexually arousing descriptions

A lot of people say that erotica is porn for women, and in a lot of ways that's true, but it also has a literary quality to it when it is done well, and done beautifully, which is something we all agreed on. A good example of this is "Delta of Venus" by Anaïs Nin, which I read a bit of on the July 4th episode. That said, I think that a lot of people separate things that are sexual, and things that are literary, which doesn't necessarily have to be true. In visual art, erotic things are often considered high art, but in the written form, it's called smut. This seems unfair to me, and is something Elissa has experienced firsthand with her erotica, which I read aloud in this episode as well. Hope I've piqued your interest. See you on the other side.

Music you heard:

1. "Up From The South" by The Budos Band

Useful links:

1. Umich Library search of "best erotica"
2. Ann Arbor District Library search for "erotica"
3. Tiny Nibbles
4. Juxtapoz Erotica

Thanks for listening! Let us know what you thought!

Roundtable: Real Men™ - 8/22/12

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Lucky for you, I was a bit lazy and didn't want to prerecord anything, so you got a LIVE show out of the deal. To be honest, I love doing live shows, especially when I have cool people like Steph and Elissa with me in the studio.

Today the topic we landed on was about a Jezebel article by Lindy West that I recently came upon and posted on my Facebook. This was a great read, and I got a lot of interesting responses from my friends, which I talked a little bit on the show (no names, don't worry guys). The main ideas of the article are that our society has ingrained us with an idea that there is an ideal kind of woman, and an ideal kind of man, and that we need to get as close as possible to that, as unrealistic, and unreasonable as it might be. Men have unrealistic expectations of how women should dress or act, and women can do the same thing. It's a two way street.

We also touch on a few mildly related topics, such as weddings, communication, and very small dogs. Enjoy the show!

Useful links:

1. Jezebel article by Lindy West "Everything Real Men Think Is Wrong With You"

See you next week! As always, if you have any comments/suggestions/hate mail, please feel free to comment or e-mail!

Older LGBT Adults - 8/15/12

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Today's show I interviewed Kathleen LaTosch, the special projects consultant for Affirmations, about a very interesting topic, and probably not one that's on your radar: LGBT older adults. The elderly community itself is something that younger generations sometimes don't think much about (until they are part of it), but everyone needs to do their part to make their issues known.

Older LGBT adults have a lot of problems not only with housing, but with typical aging services, such as retirement homes, assisted living, hospice, etc. These are major issues for heterosexual adults, but for LGBT individuals, it can create a whole host of problems. Maybe they're severely closeted, and don't trust others to come into their home for fear of being outed. Maybe they are living with a partner, but cannot live in the same retirement community because of discrimination (which is allowed in Michigan by the way).

Please realize that this could be an older person that you know. Maybe someone at your church or temple. Maybe it's your next door neighbor. An important point that I want to make is that simply talking about the issues can solve the problem, and can make people more aware. If you know an older person, have them take this survey. I also have it linked below. This can help change the discrimination we face in Michigan, and discrimination specifically faced by older LGBT individuals.

Useful Links:

1. LGBT Older Adult Coalition
2. LGBT Needs Survey
3. Affirmations of Ferndale, MI
4. Relevant article from the New York Times

Music you heard:

1. "Easy Living" by Billie Holiday
2. "On The Sunny Side Of The Street" by Louis Armstrong
3. "To the Gateway" from Super Mario Galaxy OST

Tune in next week! And don't be shy about leaving a comment or shooting us an e-mail! We love e-mails!

BDSM/Kink Culture - 8/8/12

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Sex Olympians - 8/1/12

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Today was a very special episode of the Sex and Tell Show for multiple reasons:

1. There were about 5 other people in the studio besides me
2. It was a live show
3. We got our first caller
4. Our topic was the best thing ever

The gist of today's show was that Olympic games participants are having copious amounts of sex right now. Yes, right now. While you're watching the Olympics on your TV, there is so much behind-the-scene action that it will blow your mind. Not only do Olympians have lots and lots of sex with each other, but the people running the Olympics actually buy custom condoms in bulk for the occasion! In the episode we'll talk about that, plus why it may or may not be good for the athletes to have sex before their events.

As always, if you have any comments, anecdotes, etc. about the topic, PLEASE e-mail us. We want to know. We need to know. 

Useful links:

1. Will you still medal in the morning?
2. Olympics: Sex not a spoiler
3. 21 Openly Gay Olympians
4. Olympics or Gay Porn?

Music you heard:

1. "We Are The Champions" by Queen

Hope you have as much fun listening as we did recording!

Sexxit! - 7/25/12

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Check it out, so Sonya and I were like, "We have no idea what to do this week," so we decided to take my obsession with Reddit and make a show out of it.

I've been a Redditor for about year now, and the community never fails to astound me in ways that I didn't think the internet could anymore. So many Redditors on /r/sex are willing to give you meaningful comments if you have questions, stories, or need serious help with a problem, and I don't think I've ever seen someone made fun of or trolled for a serious question. Topics are all over the maps, including but not limited to: trouble with orgasms, how to bring up BDSM with a partner, tips for oral sex, etc.

Besides talking about some important questions that we found on /r/sex and might be helpful to you, I hope that if you take away anything from this, it's to hopefully facilitate better communication with partners, and conversations with friends and family. Yes, sometimes it can be awkward. It's usually awkward in fact, but that shouldn't stop you from being able to talk about questions you have, or things you think are relevant, because they matter, and you're not alone.

Useful Links:

1. /r/sex (Sexxit)
2. /r/sexpertslounge (The Sexpert's Lounge)
3. The Sexpert's Lounge Blog

Music you heard:

1. "I Don't Know Enough About You" by Peggy Lee
2. "Toboggan" by Podington Bear
3. "Mayhem" by Terrorizer

Now go use the internet more! And as always, if you have questions/comments/rants, please hit the little contact button on top of the page!

Roundtable: Rape Jokes - 7/18/12

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So as a change of pace, today's show had special guests Rachael Crowe and Ben Yee, and we were LIVE on the air! The main thing we wanted to talk about is what makes a rape joke unacceptable, and really dissecting the reasons someone makes a rape joke. All over the internet you will see comedians fighting for free speech, and feminists fighting for compassion for rape survivors, but in my opinion, what we really need to do is put out the torches, sit down, and have a real conversation.

Even in today's show, we talked about how many people will make jokes to get around an awkward topic. Rape is a serious topic, and can be awkward to talk about, which is why people make rape jokes. It makes sense, right? The thing is, is that rape should be treated like any other serious topic. For example, let's take the Holocaust. Would you joke about the Holocaust to a group of Jewish internment camp survivors? "NO OF COURSE NOT" you might say. Well tell me this: how is joking about rape to a rape survivor any different? The answer: it's not. You need to be sensitive to your audience, and to context. That's just being a smart comedian. 

We realize this can be a very touchy topic, and we tried to be careful, but we also wanted to get to the heart of the cultural/society associations with rape, and why rape jokes are becoming a thing.

Useful links:

1. How to Make a Rape Joke
2. Louis CK Wasn't Defending Tosh, Restores Faith in Humanity
3. What 'Rape Jokes' Could Learn From Jewish Humor
4. Sexual Assault Prevention & Awareness Center (SAPAC)
5. RAINN Rape Statistics

Clips heard in this show: 

1. Louis CK - Rape
2. Ever Mainard - Here's Your Rape!

If you have any comments about this show, disagree with us, have something to add, please please please comment on this post! We love to hear what you have to say.

PJ McGann - Sexuality/Gender/Stereotypes - 7/11/12

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Hi sexy people!

We have another interview for you this week, and I'm really excited for you to listen to it! We brought PJ McGann, a professor at the University of Michigan, into the station to talk about a multitude of topics, but primarily the break-down of sexuality, gender, and stereotypes that perpetuate heteronormativity. We also delve into bisexuality, and why being bisexual can be difficult with the stereotypes of both hetero- and homo-sexuals, as well as how both of those communities operate.

To be perfectly honest, I could talk all day about this topic, and it's unfortunate that we only have 30-minutes to give you the scoop. I really hope that we can have another show like this, and I would love your feedback on specifically what you would like to hear! Also, if you just want to chat about this topic (as broad as it is), I would love to hear from you! E-mail me!


Useful links: 

• American Institute of Bisexuality
• LGBT Stereotypes via Wikipedia
• ALGBTICAL - Gay Stereotypes
• Magnus Hirschfeld Archive for Sexology
• OutHistory
• International Gay & Lesbian Human Rights Coalition

Music you heard:

• "Autant de lundis que le linge sur la corde à linge" by André Duchesne
• "Squirrel Commotion" by Podington Bear
• "Dreaming Women" from R.O.D. the TV OST 2

Tune in next week for a LIVE roundtable discussion with Sonya and I! 

Happy Sexth of July - 7/4/12

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Due to a lack of interviews, the holiday season, and my dear co-host being out of town, I decided to do a live show for the first time, and talk a bit about the history of sex in Amurrica! Although it was a bit of an irregular show, I hope you really enjoyed it, and I hope that you check out some of the other resources listed below. I had a lot of fun reading these articles, and I tried to share what I thought was best, but each link has waaaaay more stuff than I could talk about on-air in 30 minutes.

A lot of what I wanted to talk about on the show was that every day, every month, every year, America is changing, sometimes for worse, but a lot of the time for the better. We've made huge strides not only in civil rights regarding gay marriage, but with sex and sexuality in general. It's finally becoming more OK to talk about sex, and hopefully someday we'll be as healthy and open about sexuality as our fellow humans in European countries.

If you have any questions, comments, etc. about the show, feel free to leave comments or e-mail us! We would love to have a conversation about whatever's on your mind!

Useful links:

• FAQ to The Kinsey Institute
• "The History & Future of Sex" by Marty Klein, PhD
• "Making War, Not Love: A French View On Sex In America" by Pascal Brunkner
• "Delta Venus" by Anaïs Nin
• Sexual Revolution via Wikipedia

Music used:

1. "C'était Une Histoire D'amour" by Edith Piaf
2. Satie: Gnossiennes #5 (Modéré)
3. "Memoir of a Future Past" by Ezekiel Honig

Tune in next week! 

Circumcision - 6/27/12

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Today we talked with Andrew Kohler about the pros, cons, and myths of circumcision. This was especially interesting for us, because Sonya and I had absolutely no idea that circumcision was such a hotly debated topic. After talking with Andy about it, I was talking to a friend who said that on Reddit, there was a lot of buzz about Germany's decision to ban religious circumcision, which made me curious to see the Reddit community's various opinions on circumcision in general. I highly suggest you check it out.

As this is a topic of debate, we would love to hear your comments or opinions on the matter, and any anecdotes you might want to share.

If you want to know more, or you want to talk to Andy about anything at all, he encourages you to e-mail him at andrew.kohler@yahoo.com.

Useful resources:

• Circumstitions
• DOC (Doctors Opposing Circumcision)
• NOCIRC (National Organization of Circumcision Information Resources Centers)
• Intact America

Music/Clips you heard:

• Carl Orff: De Temporum Fine Comoedia (Play on the End of Times) played by Cologne Radio Symphony Orchestra
• "Every Sperm is Sacred" from 'Monty Python and the Meaning of Life'
•  "Uncut" from 'Sex and the City'
• "Body and Soul" by Billie Holiday

Until next time! 

Roundtable #2 - OKTrends, Missed Connections - 6/20/12

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I hope that you all liked our round-table discussion last week, because we're doing it again this week!

Sonya and I got to chat with our engineer this week, Ben, and decided to talk about the phenomenon of missed connections on Craigslist, and read a few for you. Although we explain it on the show, here's the low down: a missed connection is when you see someone in real life, but don't have the guts to talk to them/ask for their number, and then regret it. Thankfully though, the internet has been invented, and missed connections allow us to reach out blindly for our hopeful lovers. There's also a really great illustrated book about missed connections called Missed Connections: Love, Lost & Found which you should check out if you dig this idea. Also, here's kind of how a missed connection works, but is mostly my excuse to reference Amélie:

Amelie looks ready to post a missed connection. 

Man at the photo booth - w4m: 
I saw you at the photo booth and I think you're sensitive and charming. I can't get you out of my head. My neighbor thinks I'm obsessed. Also, I have your scrapbook of ripped up photos of strangers. I dig that. Let's meet at The Two Windmills at 4pm. I may or may not be in a Zorro costume. 

"This is you, isn't it? No, really, it's you. I can tell by the Zorro suit!"

We also check out the OKCupid blog, although not really updated anymore, and talk about a few of the charts and trends that seem to be common on OKCupid that could definitely be relevant to your sex life, especially if you have an online dating account and want to know how the logistics and culture work online. Now go forth and be educated by our show!

Links you should check out:

• MissedConnections.com
• Ann Arbor Missed Connections on Craigslist
• OKTrends

Music you heard:

• "Pretending To..." by Illicit Tsuboi (Samurai Champloo)
• "De Hombre A Hombre" by Gotan Project
• "Fu-Wa-Fu-Ra" by Taku Iwasaki (R.O.D. the TV)

Until next time, you sexual beasts. 

Roundtable Discussion! - 6/13/12

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For today's show we had an idea percolating in the wings about having an open discussion about whatever issues were on our minds. This idea was also perpetuated by our friend Kate, because she likes to hear herself talk on the radio. The idea of this show, and hopefully more roundtable discussions to come, is to feel comfortable talking about whatever topics are on our mind regarding sex/sexuality/gender. Sex positivity is the name of the game, folks. We're not experts about anything, but we all have different experiences that allow us a unique perspective on these topics, and it would be such a waste not to talk about it, and share our experiences, and learn from others.

Useful links:

1. Autostraddle: Girl-on-Girl culture, news, opinion, and entertainment site.
2. /r/sex - This is a subreddit all about sex, where anyone can ask questions, get an outside opinion, or just browse the various posts that other people make.
3. LaciGreen.tv - Sex positive vlogger who is just super awesome.

Music you heard:

1. "Talking To Myself About You" by Peggy Lee
2. "Can I Talk To You?" by Podington Bear
3. "You Probably Couldn't See For The Lights But You Were Staring Straight At Me" by Arctic Monkeys
4. "Rainy Day" from Animal Crossing OST

If you have any questions or reactions to the show, feel free to leave them here! Till next time!

Hormones and Sex - 6/6/12

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Katy Goldey

What's up, listeners? Are you ready for another episode of Sex and Tell?! We've been getting a lot of positive response from you, and we can't tell you how pleased we are to have you listening to the show, and checking out our blog. We encourage you to comment/e-mail us about stuff you like, stuff you don't like, things you would like to hear! Anyway, onto the topic!

For today's show we interviewed Katy Goldey, who is a graduate student working with Dr. Sari M. van Anders in her social neuroendocrinology lab, which focuses on sex, hormones, sexuality, and gender! We'll dive into how testosterone affects men and women differently, estrogen in men and women, and also animal masturbation!

Useful links:

• Society for Behavioral Neuroendocrinology
• The Kinsey Institute 
• van Anders Lab

Music you heard:

• "One Day" by Nobukazu Takemura
• "Instinct Blues" by The White Stripes
• "Yaaro Sonnaangalaam" by K.S. Chithra

Thanks again for listening, and tune in next week!

Burlesque! - 5/30/12

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Annie Thing

And now for something completely different, this week's show is about the wonderful, strange world of burlesque! For this show we brought in Annie Thing and Mabel Syrup from Tickled Fancy Burlesque Co. to talk a little about what they do, and why they do it.

We talked about a lot of topics covering burlesque: costumes, skits, classic vs. modern burlesque, characters, etc. The most important thing that I want everyone to take away from this though, is when we talk about how burlesque reveals how everyone is sexy. Whether you're funny sexy, geeky sexy, ballerina sexy, everyone feels sexy sometimes, and you need to own that feeling. You need to know that you are absolutely beautiful, and absolutely sensual in your own way. There is no cookie cutter sexy, and that's what burlesque is about for Tickled Fancy. They're about finding their own characters to relate to, and making it OK to be yourself.

Mabel Syrup

Sites to check out:

• Tickled Fancy Burlesque Co.
• Fierce Queer Burlesque Festival
• History of Burlesque Pt. 1
• Burlesque via Wikipedia

Music heard on this show:

• "Shines Through Trees" by Podington Bear
• "Ruby, My Dear" by Thelonious Monk
• "After Midnight" from Chicago

Hope you enjoy the show, and check out our archives for shows you've missed! Feel free to leave comments about anything you liked/wanted more of/hated! 

Trans Part 1: MTF Basics - 5/23/12

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For this episode of the 'Sex and Tell Show', we interviewed Sara Jakubowski, who is a transgender woman living in Ferndale, MI, and avid blogger. The major themes of the show are: MTF (male-to-female) transitioning, coming out as trans, gender dysphoria, and how non-trans people can support their friends/family who are trans.

A major topic that, from the very beginning of this show, we wanted to talk about is trans issues and the trans community. It's one of those things that a lot of people are thinking about, but no one's talking about it. In the early stages of the show, we asked around Ann Arbor, and also friends of ours, what kinds of topics they wanted to hear or learn more about, and probably more than 70% of people said "trans issues." People want to know how to react if they meet a trans person. You want to be sympathetic and inoffensive. You want to separate the fact from the fiction, especially with how the political climate is regarding same-sex marriage. The queer community thanks you.

Something important to remember while listening to this show, is that we are just scratching the surface regarding trans issues (thus the title "Trans pt. 1"). We intend to have many more episodes regarding gender, and especially the break-down of terminology regarding various gender identities. If you're curious (which I hope you are), here is a list of terminology to whet your appetite. Also, if you want to hear about specific topics, comment/e-mail us! This show is to help you, so tell us what you want!

If you want to share a story, talk more about resources where you are, or anything, we encourage you to comment here, or e-mail us. Sara is also super nice and would love to talk to you! You can e-mail her at suddenlysara1@gmail.com.

Aforementioned Links:

• GoAffirmations.org 
• Suddenly-Sara.com
• Suddenly Sara YouTube Channel

Music heard on this show:

• "Ragged Wood" by Fleet Foxes
• "Real Love" by Regina Spektor
• "Son Binocle" from 'Les Trois Valses Distinguées Du Précieux Dégoûté' by Eric Satie

We'll see you next week!

Coming Out - 5/16/12

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Welcome to the very first episode of the Sex and Tell Show!

Sonya and I have been planning and plotting topics for shows for a few weeks now, but when it came to what our very first topic should be, both of us knew immediately: Coming Out. It's one of the hardest things a human being can do, and I personally think it's something that everyone, not just the LGBT community, has to deal with. Learning to be honest about who you are is hard. That said, our show today is going to be specifically about coming out as some form of queer.

If you're looking for the resources we mentioned on the show, you can go to our Resources page. We would also love to hear your coming out stories, questions, tips, advice, anything! We have this show for you to listen, and this blog for you to feel comfortable interacting with us, and talking about this stuff! Feel free to leave comments or e-mail us!

The music you heard on the show today was:

• "Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye
• "Jump In" by High Places
• "Bend" by Ben Sollee

See you next week!

You found the Sex and Tell Show!

To give you a little summary about what we're doing on the radio, I give you three words: sex, sexuality, and gender. This is a radio show every Wednesday from 6:30-7pm on 88.3 WCBN FM Ann Arbor. The purpose of the show is to educate, entertain, and inform our listeners of various topics within the realms of sex, sexuality, and gender in the most tasteful, academic way possible. That said, we're not experts in this field. We are only curious humans. As much as possible, we intend to bring knowledge people in for interviews on the subject of the day, and simply have a little chat.
Here is a sampling of topics you might/will hear on the air:

• Coming out
• Trans issues
• Genderqueer
• Sex toys
• Safe sex
• Body image
• College dating/sex
• Porn
• Etc.

 We'll have some updates soon, and will be posting the audio every week for you to catch up on, as well as a post about the topic! If you have any questions, topic suggestions, complaints, or would like to be interviewed for the show, feel free to contact heidimad@gmail.com.