Circumcision - 6/27/12

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Today we talked with Andrew Kohler about the pros, cons, and myths of circumcision. This was especially interesting for us, because Sonya and I had absolutely no idea that circumcision was such a hotly debated topic. After talking with Andy about it, I was talking to a friend who said that on Reddit, there was a lot of buzz about Germany's decision to ban religious circumcision, which made me curious to see the Reddit community's various opinions on circumcision in general. I highly suggest you check it out.

As this is a topic of debate, we would love to hear your comments or opinions on the matter, and any anecdotes you might want to share.

If you want to know more, or you want to talk to Andy about anything at all, he encourages you to e-mail him at andrew.kohler@yahoo.com.

Useful resources:

• Circumstitions
• DOC (Doctors Opposing Circumcision)
• NOCIRC (National Organization of Circumcision Information Resources Centers)
• Intact America

Music/Clips you heard:

• Carl Orff: De Temporum Fine Comoedia (Play on the End of Times) played by Cologne Radio Symphony Orchestra
• "Every Sperm is Sacred" from 'Monty Python and the Meaning of Life'
•  "Uncut" from 'Sex and the City'
• "Body and Soul" by Billie Holiday

Until next time! 

Roundtable #2 - OKTrends, Missed Connections - 6/20/12

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I hope that you all liked our round-table discussion last week, because we're doing it again this week!

Sonya and I got to chat with our engineer this week, Ben, and decided to talk about the phenomenon of missed connections on Craigslist, and read a few for you. Although we explain it on the show, here's the low down: a missed connection is when you see someone in real life, but don't have the guts to talk to them/ask for their number, and then regret it. Thankfully though, the internet has been invented, and missed connections allow us to reach out blindly for our hopeful lovers. There's also a really great illustrated book about missed connections called Missed Connections: Love, Lost & Found which you should check out if you dig this idea. Also, here's kind of how a missed connection works, but is mostly my excuse to reference Amélie:

Amelie looks ready to post a missed connection. 

Man at the photo booth - w4m: 
I saw you at the photo booth and I think you're sensitive and charming. I can't get you out of my head. My neighbor thinks I'm obsessed. Also, I have your scrapbook of ripped up photos of strangers. I dig that. Let's meet at The Two Windmills at 4pm. I may or may not be in a Zorro costume. 

"This is you, isn't it? No, really, it's you. I can tell by the Zorro suit!"

We also check out the OKCupid blog, although not really updated anymore, and talk about a few of the charts and trends that seem to be common on OKCupid that could definitely be relevant to your sex life, especially if you have an online dating account and want to know how the logistics and culture work online. Now go forth and be educated by our show!

Links you should check out:

• MissedConnections.com
• Ann Arbor Missed Connections on Craigslist
• OKTrends

Music you heard:

• "Pretending To..." by Illicit Tsuboi (Samurai Champloo)
• "De Hombre A Hombre" by Gotan Project
• "Fu-Wa-Fu-Ra" by Taku Iwasaki (R.O.D. the TV)

Until next time, you sexual beasts. 

Roundtable Discussion! - 6/13/12

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For today's show we had an idea percolating in the wings about having an open discussion about whatever issues were on our minds. This idea was also perpetuated by our friend Kate, because she likes to hear herself talk on the radio. The idea of this show, and hopefully more roundtable discussions to come, is to feel comfortable talking about whatever topics are on our mind regarding sex/sexuality/gender. Sex positivity is the name of the game, folks. We're not experts about anything, but we all have different experiences that allow us a unique perspective on these topics, and it would be such a waste not to talk about it, and share our experiences, and learn from others.

Useful links:

1. Autostraddle: Girl-on-Girl culture, news, opinion, and entertainment site.
2. /r/sex - This is a subreddit all about sex, where anyone can ask questions, get an outside opinion, or just browse the various posts that other people make.
3. LaciGreen.tv - Sex positive vlogger who is just super awesome.

Music you heard:

1. "Talking To Myself About You" by Peggy Lee
2. "Can I Talk To You?" by Podington Bear
3. "You Probably Couldn't See For The Lights But You Were Staring Straight At Me" by Arctic Monkeys
4. "Rainy Day" from Animal Crossing OST

If you have any questions or reactions to the show, feel free to leave them here! Till next time!

Hormones and Sex - 6/6/12

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Katy Goldey

What's up, listeners? Are you ready for another episode of Sex and Tell?! We've been getting a lot of positive response from you, and we can't tell you how pleased we are to have you listening to the show, and checking out our blog. We encourage you to comment/e-mail us about stuff you like, stuff you don't like, things you would like to hear! Anyway, onto the topic!

For today's show we interviewed Katy Goldey, who is a graduate student working with Dr. Sari M. van Anders in her social neuroendocrinology lab, which focuses on sex, hormones, sexuality, and gender! We'll dive into how testosterone affects men and women differently, estrogen in men and women, and also animal masturbation!

Useful links:

• Society for Behavioral Neuroendocrinology
• The Kinsey Institute 
• van Anders Lab

Music you heard:

• "One Day" by Nobukazu Takemura
• "Instinct Blues" by The White Stripes
• "Yaaro Sonnaangalaam" by K.S. Chithra

Thanks again for listening, and tune in next week!

Burlesque! - 5/30/12

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Annie Thing

And now for something completely different, this week's show is about the wonderful, strange world of burlesque! For this show we brought in Annie Thing and Mabel Syrup from Tickled Fancy Burlesque Co. to talk a little about what they do, and why they do it.

We talked about a lot of topics covering burlesque: costumes, skits, classic vs. modern burlesque, characters, etc. The most important thing that I want everyone to take away from this though, is when we talk about how burlesque reveals how everyone is sexy. Whether you're funny sexy, geeky sexy, ballerina sexy, everyone feels sexy sometimes, and you need to own that feeling. You need to know that you are absolutely beautiful, and absolutely sensual in your own way. There is no cookie cutter sexy, and that's what burlesque is about for Tickled Fancy. They're about finding their own characters to relate to, and making it OK to be yourself.

Mabel Syrup

Sites to check out:

• Tickled Fancy Burlesque Co.
• Fierce Queer Burlesque Festival
• History of Burlesque Pt. 1
• Burlesque via Wikipedia

Music heard on this show:

• "Shines Through Trees" by Podington Bear
• "Ruby, My Dear" by Thelonious Monk
• "After Midnight" from Chicago

Hope you enjoy the show, and check out our archives for shows you've missed! Feel free to leave comments about anything you liked/wanted more of/hated! 

Trans Part 1: MTF Basics - 5/23/12

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For this episode of the 'Sex and Tell Show', we interviewed Sara Jakubowski, who is a transgender woman living in Ferndale, MI, and avid blogger. The major themes of the show are: MTF (male-to-female) transitioning, coming out as trans, gender dysphoria, and how non-trans people can support their friends/family who are trans.

A major topic that, from the very beginning of this show, we wanted to talk about is trans issues and the trans community. It's one of those things that a lot of people are thinking about, but no one's talking about it. In the early stages of the show, we asked around Ann Arbor, and also friends of ours, what kinds of topics they wanted to hear or learn more about, and probably more than 70% of people said "trans issues." People want to know how to react if they meet a trans person. You want to be sympathetic and inoffensive. You want to separate the fact from the fiction, especially with how the political climate is regarding same-sex marriage. The queer community thanks you.

Something important to remember while listening to this show, is that we are just scratching the surface regarding trans issues (thus the title "Trans pt. 1"). We intend to have many more episodes regarding gender, and especially the break-down of terminology regarding various gender identities. If you're curious (which I hope you are), here is a list of terminology to whet your appetite. Also, if you want to hear about specific topics, comment/e-mail us! This show is to help you, so tell us what you want!

If you want to share a story, talk more about resources where you are, or anything, we encourage you to comment here, or e-mail us. Sara is also super nice and would love to talk to you! You can e-mail her at suddenlysara1@gmail.com.

Aforementioned Links:

• GoAffirmations.org 
• Suddenly-Sara.com
• Suddenly Sara YouTube Channel

Music heard on this show:

• "Ragged Wood" by Fleet Foxes
• "Real Love" by Regina Spektor
• "Son Binocle" from 'Les Trois Valses Distinguées Du Précieux Dégoûté' by Eric Satie

We'll see you next week!

Coming Out - 5/16/12

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Welcome to the very first episode of the Sex and Tell Show!

Sonya and I have been planning and plotting topics for shows for a few weeks now, but when it came to what our very first topic should be, both of us knew immediately: Coming Out. It's one of the hardest things a human being can do, and I personally think it's something that everyone, not just the LGBT community, has to deal with. Learning to be honest about who you are is hard. That said, our show today is going to be specifically about coming out as some form of queer.

If you're looking for the resources we mentioned on the show, you can go to our Resources page. We would also love to hear your coming out stories, questions, tips, advice, anything! We have this show for you to listen, and this blog for you to feel comfortable interacting with us, and talking about this stuff! Feel free to leave comments or e-mail us!

The music you heard on the show today was:

• "Let's Get It On" by Marvin Gaye
• "Jump In" by High Places
• "Bend" by Ben Sollee

See you next week!