Roundtable: Real Men™ - 8/22/12

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Lucky for you, I was a bit lazy and didn't want to prerecord anything, so you got a LIVE show out of the deal. To be honest, I love doing live shows, especially when I have cool people like Steph and Elissa with me in the studio.

Today the topic we landed on was about a Jezebel article by Lindy West that I recently came upon and posted on my Facebook. This was a great read, and I got a lot of interesting responses from my friends, which I talked a little bit on the show (no names, don't worry guys). The main ideas of the article are that our society has ingrained us with an idea that there is an ideal kind of woman, and an ideal kind of man, and that we need to get as close as possible to that, as unrealistic, and unreasonable as it might be. Men have unrealistic expectations of how women should dress or act, and women can do the same thing. It's a two way street.

We also touch on a few mildly related topics, such as weddings, communication, and very small dogs. Enjoy the show!

Useful links:

1. Jezebel article by Lindy West "Everything Real Men Think Is Wrong With You"

See you next week! As always, if you have any comments/suggestions/hate mail, please feel free to comment or e-mail!

Sexxit! - 7/25/12

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Check it out, so Sonya and I were like, "We have no idea what to do this week," so we decided to take my obsession with Reddit and make a show out of it.

I've been a Redditor for about year now, and the community never fails to astound me in ways that I didn't think the internet could anymore. So many Redditors on /r/sex are willing to give you meaningful comments if you have questions, stories, or need serious help with a problem, and I don't think I've ever seen someone made fun of or trolled for a serious question. Topics are all over the maps, including but not limited to: trouble with orgasms, how to bring up BDSM with a partner, tips for oral sex, etc.

Besides talking about some important questions that we found on /r/sex and might be helpful to you, I hope that if you take away anything from this, it's to hopefully facilitate better communication with partners, and conversations with friends and family. Yes, sometimes it can be awkward. It's usually awkward in fact, but that shouldn't stop you from being able to talk about questions you have, or things you think are relevant, because they matter, and you're not alone.

Useful Links:

1. /r/sex (Sexxit)
2. /r/sexpertslounge (The Sexpert's Lounge)
3. The Sexpert's Lounge Blog

Music you heard:

1. "I Don't Know Enough About You" by Peggy Lee
2. "Toboggan" by Podington Bear
3. "Mayhem" by Terrorizer

Now go use the internet more! And as always, if you have questions/comments/rants, please hit the little contact button on top of the page!

Happy Sexth of July - 7/4/12

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Due to a lack of interviews, the holiday season, and my dear co-host being out of town, I decided to do a live show for the first time, and talk a bit about the history of sex in Amurrica! Although it was a bit of an irregular show, I hope you really enjoyed it, and I hope that you check out some of the other resources listed below. I had a lot of fun reading these articles, and I tried to share what I thought was best, but each link has waaaaay more stuff than I could talk about on-air in 30 minutes.

A lot of what I wanted to talk about on the show was that every day, every month, every year, America is changing, sometimes for worse, but a lot of the time for the better. We've made huge strides not only in civil rights regarding gay marriage, but with sex and sexuality in general. It's finally becoming more OK to talk about sex, and hopefully someday we'll be as healthy and open about sexuality as our fellow humans in European countries.

If you have any questions, comments, etc. about the show, feel free to leave comments or e-mail us! We would love to have a conversation about whatever's on your mind!

Useful links:

• FAQ to The Kinsey Institute
• "The History & Future of Sex" by Marty Klein, PhD
• "Making War, Not Love: A French View On Sex In America" by Pascal Brunkner
• "Delta Venus" by Anaïs Nin
• Sexual Revolution via Wikipedia

Music used:

1. "C'était Une Histoire D'amour" by Edith Piaf
2. Satie: Gnossiennes #5 (Modéré)
3. "Memoir of a Future Past" by Ezekiel Honig

Tune in next week! 

Roundtable #2 - OKTrends, Missed Connections - 6/20/12

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I hope that you all liked our round-table discussion last week, because we're doing it again this week!

Sonya and I got to chat with our engineer this week, Ben, and decided to talk about the phenomenon of missed connections on Craigslist, and read a few for you. Although we explain it on the show, here's the low down: a missed connection is when you see someone in real life, but don't have the guts to talk to them/ask for their number, and then regret it. Thankfully though, the internet has been invented, and missed connections allow us to reach out blindly for our hopeful lovers. There's also a really great illustrated book about missed connections called Missed Connections: Love, Lost & Found which you should check out if you dig this idea. Also, here's kind of how a missed connection works, but is mostly my excuse to reference Amélie:

Amelie looks ready to post a missed connection. 

Man at the photo booth - w4m: 
I saw you at the photo booth and I think you're sensitive and charming. I can't get you out of my head. My neighbor thinks I'm obsessed. Also, I have your scrapbook of ripped up photos of strangers. I dig that. Let's meet at The Two Windmills at 4pm. I may or may not be in a Zorro costume. 

"This is you, isn't it? No, really, it's you. I can tell by the Zorro suit!"

We also check out the OKCupid blog, although not really updated anymore, and talk about a few of the charts and trends that seem to be common on OKCupid that could definitely be relevant to your sex life, especially if you have an online dating account and want to know how the logistics and culture work online. Now go forth and be educated by our show!

Links you should check out:

• MissedConnections.com
• Ann Arbor Missed Connections on Craigslist
• OKTrends

Music you heard:

• "Pretending To..." by Illicit Tsuboi (Samurai Champloo)
• "De Hombre A Hombre" by Gotan Project
• "Fu-Wa-Fu-Ra" by Taku Iwasaki (R.O.D. the TV)

Until next time, you sexual beasts.