Basic Sex Facts - 12/26/12

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I was talking to my friend about sex (as you do), and she said that she was talking to a co-worker who didn't know things about sex that she considered to be basic, common knowledge. So today's episode is about some basic facts about condoms, lubrication, and various other bodily functions that they don't tell you in sex ed, and that porn doesn't show you.

A major thing we emphasize in today's episode is that often the reality of sex is different from what you might imagine, or what someone might tell you. Sex is complicated, hilarious, strange, and all around more multi-faceted. It's not always glamorous, but the more you know, the more fun sex will be, and the safer you can be.

If you don't know something you think you should know, but were too embarrassed to ask, don't be shy about e-mailing me. A great resource is the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, as well as just talking to your local sex expert at the Safe Sex Store or Safety Girl.

(Edit: Also, I apologize for the low quality recording. This was done in my kitchen and it was Christmas, so we were kind of loud.)

Useful links:

1. Condom Application Series
2. Condom Use Among Adolescents
3. Condom Fact Sheet
4. Female ejaculation via Wikipedia
5. 7 Ways To Know If You're Peeing Or Squirting

Music you heard:

1. "9 AM Christmas Day" from Animal Crossing GC
2. "Sex Ed Scene" from Monty Python and The Meaning of Life
3. "Break Through" by The Funkees
4. "Another Day" by Jazzanova

See you in the New Year!

Asexuality - 12/5/12

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I've been wanting an episode of The Sex and Tell Show about asexuality since the beginning stages of this show, and I'm so happy to be able to finally have someone motivated to talk about it with me. Hopefully there will be more episodes about asexuality that we do, but today we wanted to cover some basics: definition of asexuality, the difference between asexuality as an identity and a behavior, and the asexual community and the LGBT community.

The major point of the episode is acceptance and visibility though. The asexuality community is one of the only LGBT communities that simply isn't seen, or isn't acknowledged, but we can change that. Check out some of the resources below and educate yourself on some basics about asexuality, because chances are you might know someone who is asexual, or you yourself might identify it.

If you have any questions or want some more resources, feel free to contact me.

Useful resources:

1. Beyond (a)sexuality, the grey area
2. Beyond Straight and Gay - Why Asexual Visibility is Important
3. Asexual via Wikipedia
4. Asexuality.org
5. Why Should The Sex Positive Community Promote Asexuality Awareness?

Music you heard:

1. "Golliwog's Cakewalk" by Claude Debussy
2. "Booster's Tower" from Super Mario RPG by The One-Ups
3. "1 AM" from Animal Crossing GC

See you next week! 

Menswear for Female Bodies - 11/27/12

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Today's episode I had my friend Tasha on the show, who also is quite a dapper individual, and someone I can express my deep love for men's footwear and blazers with.

This is a topic that is very close to my heart, and something that I want more people to feel comfortable about and exploring. We all are ultimately looking to feel comfortable in our own skin, and our wardrobe can play a huge part in that. When I'm wearing a shirt or tie that fits me, it makes me feel like a new person. A more confident person. A person that can tackle anything. If I'm not comfortable in my clothes, I feel a lot less confident and sexy.

The hardest part about exploring dapper clothing is the judgement that you might face from store employees, other customers, or whomever. It's not easy, but the more often you do it, the more often you succeed, and the happier you can be with your wardrobe.

If you want any tips or suggestions about looking for clothes, feel free to shoot me an e-mail or comment!

Useful links:

1. Saint Harridan Kickstarter
2. Kreuzbach10 IndieGogo
3. DapperQ
4. Autostraddle: How to Wear Skinny Ties For Femmes and Bois and Everyone in Between
5. Casey Legler Interview

Music you heard:

1. "Alligator" by Tegan and Sara

See you next week!

Happy Obama! - 11/7/12

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Although my show this week was a bit scattered, I am so pleased to share it with you. Instead of 4 years of regression and the destruction of the equality that we have been striving for, America was smart enough to elect President Obama for a second term. This means progress, hope, and to be blunt, getting shit done.

I don't have much else to say, but enjoy the episode. 

Music you heard:

1. "6PM" from Animal Crossing OST
2. "Time Is All Around" by Regina Spektor
3. "Change" by Podington Bear
4. "bamboo cactus" by i, cactus

Useful links:

1. Obama's Victory Speech

Erotic Ghost Stories - 10/31/12

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OK guys. Are you ready? I've been wanting to do this show since I got back from Radiovision, and I pretty fucking excited, let me tell you what. I bought a book of erotic ghost stories called "The Big Book of Erotic Ghost Stories" at the Museum of Sex. When I showed fellow CBNer Kirsten, she basically said, "You have to read ghost erotic on Halloween on your sex show."

So I did.

Although I'm not entirely done with the book, I'm about half-way through, and I'm pleasantly surprised. Not all erotica is created equal, but a lot of these not only have plot and characters, but hella sexy scenes. As I was editing the first story, I also realized that erotica would make great radio pieces. The sounds and feelings of erotica are so hyper-aware that it calls for a bit more than just reading it (although that in itself is intensely sensual). It calls for the smells of the candles, the feeling of the sweat on your arms, and the tastes of a ghost lover's tongue. Too much for you? Maybe you don't want to listen to this episode then.

Useful links:

1. The Big Book of Erotic Ghost Stories
2. Museum of Sex

Music you heard:

1. "Going Out Of My Head" by Little Anthony & The Imperials
2. "As Time Goes By" from Casablanca
3. 28October2012 by John Boyle

In the spirit of Halloween, I thoroughly hope you are equally spooked and aroused. Enjoy!

Safety Girl! - 10/24/12

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Today's show I had a very special guest: Tanya Veilleux, who you might know as Safety Girl. She recently opened Get Curious with Safety Girl on Liberty (under Bongz & Thongz), and is on a mission to help the community by offering lots of toys, workshops, and fun costumes.

Something I love about what Tanya does, is that she is not afraid to be completely sex positive, and in a completely safe way. There are no dumb questions with her, and there's nothing TMI. You can talk about anything, and her shop is a completely safe space for this. Tanya also has developed a relationship with First Step, a domestic violence support community, which I think is so necessary to talk about and bring to light, since 1 in 4 women has experienced domestic violence.

The thing I realized while talking to Tanya was that it's important to band together in small communities like ours. Sometimes it's hard to open up about your sexuality, whether your straight or queer, and it feels good to have other people that are open about it. That is one of the fundamental reasons for my show here guys: to make you feel comfortable talking about your sexuality. I want you to feel empowered and comfortable with yourself, and the only way for that to happen is if other people are open about their own sexuality. Sex-positivism is catching.

Music you heard:

1. "Curious Jungle" by Podington Bear
2. "Ask Me Now" by Thelonious Monk
3. Safety Girl Theme

Useful links:

1. Get Curious with Safety Girl
2. Safety Girl on Facebook
3. "Boutique caters to student sexual needs" via Michigan Daily
4. First Step

Fetishism - 10/17/12

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Did you think you were the only one who liked the smell of your girlfriend on her period? You're not alone. There are innumerable kinds of fetishes, and chances are, you have one.

Don't freak out, though. Pretty much everyone on the planet has one fetish (or more). Whether you're into red heads or leather, there's something for everyone, and it makes us who we are, and what affects our sexual tastes. And as we say numerous times, as long as it's not hurting anyone, and everyone's consenting, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Part of figuring out your own sexuality is delving into stuff like this, and that's what makes us all unique, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with you for having a fetish that other people might think is weird. Chances are, there is someone (or many people) who has the same fetish as you. Just look at how the BDSM community has blossomed! Although it's still considered strange to some people, it's much more acceptable, and to be honest, I've heard a lot of couples say they have tried bondage at least once.

WARNING: We talk about some strong topics, such as cannibalism, rape, and murder fetishes, so if this triggers you, proceed with caution.

Useful links:

1. Sexual fetishism via Wikipedia
2. List of paraphilias via Wikipedia
3. AskMeAnything (AMA): I am a current furry who has attended 17 furry conventions.

Music you heard:

1. "Bear Hug" by 2 Bears
2. "Crane/White Lightning" by The RZA and Charles Bernstein from Kill Bill Vol. 1
3. "Mein Teil" by Rammstein